"My boyfriend and I have been fighting a lot lately over the littlest/stupidest things so now I'm scared he wants to break up with me. Is there any way I can end the constant conflicts?" - Crazed (R.S., Freshman)
Being defensive or arguing back is a choice, not a compulsion. If you truly feel like they are pointless matters to be arguing over, then don't let them grow into big ones. If you see that the way you have usually been responding leads to more conflicts, then maybe try responding differently, in a less, potentially aggressive manner. Don't let your ego keep you from apologizing when you know you did something wrong. At the same time, don't let your ego demand apologies from him whenever HE does something wrong. Let it all happen naturally. However, if you see that HE is the reason for the constant fighting and nothing seems to change no matter how hard YOU try to stay calm, then maybe you guys aren't as compatible as you had originally thought.
Being defensive or arguing back is a choice, not a compulsion. If you truly feel like they are pointless matters to be arguing over, then don't let them grow into big ones. If you see that the way you have usually been responding leads to more conflicts, then maybe try responding differently, in a less, potentially aggressive manner. Don't let your ego keep you from apologizing when you know you did something wrong. At the same time, don't let your ego demand apologies from him whenever HE does something wrong. Let it all happen naturally. However, if you see that HE is the reason for the constant fighting and nothing seems to change no matter how hard YOU try to stay calm, then maybe you guys aren't as compatible as you had originally thought.
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